If you are experiencing these behaviors from a partner, know that you are not alone, and that it is not your fault: there are people in the community to help you. You can discuss your situation with a confidential advocate, who can discuss your options. More resources can be found here.
Hawaiʻi Programs
National Programs
Talk to a health care provider who can help you find a discreet birth control option. You can visit your regular health care provider, or try one of the following options:
If a survivor discloses that they are being abused or coerced by their partner, they feel safe and trust you enough to share this information, and being supportive and nonjudgmental can make a huge difference. Visit the How to Respond to Disclosures of Domestic Violence page to learn about how to respond to these disclosures.
Understand that a survivor’s behaviors may be monitored by their partner, and they may need your assistance with making contraceptive purchases or attending appointments. Help them when possible, and don’t pry for more information than they feel comfortable sharing. More resources can be found here.
Make it a practice to talk to survivors about reproductive healthcare. You can include it in your intake questions: “Many survivors that we speak to might need access to pregnancy tests or emergency contraception. Is that the case for you right now?”
Have information and supplies readily available for survivors, no questions asked. Below are guides from Pregnant Survivors that could help you create safety plans and potential discreet contraceptive options for survivors. More resources can be found here.
Ensure that you and all officers who interact with domestic violence survivors have an understanding of how pregnancy affects an abusive relationship.
Familiarize yourself with local resources that are able to help survivors create a safety plan. Find a local program here.
Pregnant Survivors also provides practice guidelines for law enforcement here and check out more resources on HSCADV Coalition Manager.
Work with the assumption that you will cross paths with survivors regularly. Create a safe space for them to disclose their experiences.
Normalize conversations about your patients’ relationships, and have those conversations when you can be alone with the patient.
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